Life and my boys

April has been on my mind since Andrew told me about her pregnancy. I stayed up late last night and got her some information together.

I printed out a copy of “What You Should Know If Considering Adoption”. According to this I did EVERYTHING wrong! I found it shortly after bring PooWee home. Actually, I even highlighted lots and gave to Mag, but betcha she won’t give it to April!

I then went through my blog and if someone commented that an expectant mother should hear what I wrote, I printed it off.

I wrote her a quick letter, basically telling her, to REALLY EDUCATE herself. Seeing she’s thinking of parenting, I told her I would get local resources together for her. Parenting is one issue I believe Mag WILL NOT cover. – She may loos “business” – isn’t that HORRIBLE! I figure Mag didn’t with me and I was 32 years old, she sure won’t with a teenager!

I was concerned on helping her, thinking maybe I should speak to her parents first. However, after reading Paragraphein’s post here, and listening to the video, my mind set changed. It’s so true – THIS DECISION IS APRIL’s! (And Chad if her decides to be apart of the situation. I pray he comes around.) And I’ve read way to many sad stories where the parents made a teen give their child for adoption and all regret it later.

Andrew mentioned that Mag is having her talk with “other girls”, I’m thinking they are birth/firstmothers. Wonder what Mag is going to say when April asks Mag to meet with me and her? I’m a bit nervous, I may just say alot Mag won’t like, but SO BE IT! I want April to be well educated. I want her decision to be one she KNOWS was well thought out and is right for her.

When and if she interviews prospective adoptive parents, what questions should she ask. What a signs she should look for that they may not be sincere in openness. (I got some ideas, from how J was post PooWee’s birth.)

If she chooses to parent and can’t stay at home with her parents, I swear, I will let her in. I hope her parents will allow her to stay, but if not, I will assist and make sure she finishes her education, and help her develop into a respectable young mommy! I haven’t told her this, but did bring it up with Andrew.

Andrew was going to give her the information at school today. I hope she reads through it all and takes the info to heart. I’ll keep ya posted on how things are going.

Next, I want to write to Chad. I just want him to look at how he is a father, nothing will change that anymore. He now has a choice to be an involved father or not. I’d like him to think about what would be best for his child and how his child would like him to be. Andrew said, “You getting too into this!” – Maybe, but I was invited and I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I didn’t try to educate them both!